June 10th, 2014

10 Father’s Day Lessons on Raising PK’s

Todd's kidsI will become an “empty nester” in just a few short months. My first born son will begin his junior year at college, and my youngest daughter will embark on her freshman journey. Eighteen years ago this day seemed so far away, but now it is here and I have survived raising a couple of awesome PK’s.

I began knowing nothing. Now I feel like I know something, but definitely not everything. Here are some thoughts that I hope will encourage fathers this week.

  • Remember they are not your kids. They are His. They are called from birth to fulfill a mission for their Father. You just get blessed to have them in your home and be a part of the process.
  • Let your kids teach you how they are best raised. Kids are unique in terms of how they process life and what they are passionate about. Learn your kids first.
  • Have age appropriate expectations. When they are three years old, expect them to behave as such. When they get older this line can easily blur because teens look adult-like, but they aren’t.
  • Give plenty of room to fail and teach about grace. Guilt, shame, and condemnation are strongholds that latch on to us early in life.
  • Most spiritual resources are deposited prior to the middle school years. By the time they are a teen, you help them unpack what you’ve already invested.
  • Believe in your kids. There is no substitute for self confidence in life. They will feel beat up and get beat down, but never let you know.
  • You need to be willing to intervene and make hard decisions for your kids, especially when they are teens. Their hormones, brains, and emotions are not trustworthy guides.
  • Use teachable moments to demonstrate biblical truth at work in life. If you do this well, they won’t even know you are discipling them.
  • God is always at work teaching and leading your kids to become someone you can not even imagine. Trust Him.
  • Don’t let the church activity be equated with being a passionate Christ-follower. Be a model and mentor of Christianity in society. Often times, as the father goes so go the kids.

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